'Oh, was it planned?' Who asks that?!?!

As news of my pregnancy starts to circulate, I am always floored by a question that more than one person has asked me. "Was it planned?" they ask, seemingly innocent enough and (I'm hoping, at least) trying to be well-intentioned.

Both times this question has been asked, the inquiry has stopped me in my tracks. (Don't worry, most people who should know better haven't asked me this question --and I've refrained from giving an overly outrageous or sarcastic response back to the poor twits who just let the question fall out of their mouths).

First of all, who ASKS that question? Especially to a couple that has been married for almost two years, together for nearly four with full-time jobs, health insurance, a house and means to support a child? I mean, we're not exactly a couple of teenagers in high school who have no idea what we're doing, you know? We'll be (almost) 30 and 32 when the baby is born.

The second reason I can't believe people ask this question is WHY IS IT ANY OF YOUR BUSINESS whether the baby was planned or not? And what if it wasn't? Do you want me to start a long conversation with you about how we "slipped up" or "didn't really want the baby, but guess we'll have to have it now that I'm pregnant" Um, no! I don't think you want to listen to that kind of answer anymore than I'd like to provide it.

(Disclaimer: In case you are wondering and since I am bridging this topic, I will say that yes, our baby was planned and yes, we are thrilled. Less thrilled about some of the stupid questions people we barely know ask us, but thrilled nonetheless).

And then I start to think about all the pregnant women out there who aren't in my situation. Maybe the single girl who isn't in the greatest position to have a baby right now, finds herself pregnant --and then gets the ol' "Was it planned?" question from some random acquaintance and she is forced to explain herself when she really shouldn't have to at all. It's annoying, you know?

Anyhow, just had to share my rant about this situation. As you can tell, I'm starting to feel better and at least have regained the energy to complain about ridiculous people who ask ridiculous questions. :-)